Tag: social
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The ladder
The comment section of my last post taught me something I hadn’t fully seen when I was writing it. Several female leaders pushed back. Not on the conclusion, but on the framing. They pointed out that the advantages I described… the existing network, the lower intimidation threshold, the familiarity with the follower’s experience… don’t tell…
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The gift of the wrong partner
In a world that counts everything through performance… likes… followers… output… Tango pushes us to develop something else. Something that doesn’t really fit into metrics. Presence. So if presence doesn’t “pay”… why develop it at all? What is the value of it?
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Which mountain are you climbing?
We believe that in Tango, as in many other activities, the higher you get, the lonelier it becomes. The better you dance, the fewer people you find to truly enjoy dancing with. So if improving means that fewer and fewer partners satisfy you… if you need those very few at “your level” to enjoy a…
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The excuse gap and the internal quiet
In the last post, I wrote about the two different orientations of growth in Tango and the key differences between them. Especially in how they see the partner in the dance equation. The post finished with the following questions: If your growth orientation and intention are right, why does judgment remain? Why do good dancers…
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Your pleasure is not the goal
If the goal of my dance is my enjoyment, what does this make the other person? Are they reduced to a variable in my pleasure… a means to my end?
