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The Ring, the Gollum and… your Tango!
You’ve probably seen the “My Taaaango” T-shirts with Gollum clutching the Ring like it’s the most precious thing in the world. Did you find it funny? I hope so. But have you ever wondered what message it hides about how Tango, like the Ring in…
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But they dance…
I was in a milonga the other night, which wasn’t very full. The mood was flat. Adnd then came the first song of a Tanda—Cascabelito by Pugliese, with Maciel on vocals. Under different circumstances, my head would be spinning like a cartoon scanning the room to find a partner. This…
Caveman mode ON!
“I feel that if I will ever dance with her, I need to be at my best.” A friend of mine told me in a milonga some time ago. I’ve heard that thought before. Actually, I used to think that way too. In my first couple of years, whenever I…
Nobody’s crazy… and alone
TLDR: Today, I’m launching a new initiative: anonymous community surveys. The first one is about how we experience rejection in Tango. If you’ve ever felt confused, hurt, or unsure about being refused a dance, this is your chance to share your perspective.
Dance like there is no… tomorrow
“It’s such a pity that no one took a photo of me dancing with her.” A friend told me about a memorable tanda he had. Just a few days ago, another friend posted a video of dancing with a well-known dancer that many consider a myth. Looking at photos and…
Retention rates and “bad” milongas
In the previous post, I wrote about a friend comparing the vibe from two different milongas. I pointed out the behaviours of organisers that can create a “colder” vibe. Usually, such milongas attract and cater more to advanced dancers, and that is why the organisers have a judgemental mentality that…
Why is your milonga so… “cold”?
“When I am in milonga A I feel like home but in milonga B I feel I need to be careful with each and every step I take… I feel like I am constantly under judgment.” A friend of mine told me that comparing the vibe he gets between two…
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It is a woman’s world.
In a comment I received on my post about men in Tango, there was the suggestion that we don’t have enough good leaders and that followers turning to leaders will increase competition between leaders pushing them to get better. In theory, this argument sounds perfect. Indeed. In a market with a small amount of suppliers…
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A ridiculously biased, toxic man. Me!
What I consider normal is not necessarily normal for you and vice versa. Normal is just a construct of our minds. Actually there is not just one “normal”, there are many “normals”. Yours, mine, the guy who just found the post by accident, the lady’s who is looking for a cheesecake recipe and found this…
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Power games and a debunked theory
It all started with an excellent post by Oa Metzner in her Facebook profile. She described her experience so far in the role of leader and urged men to be careful with the power they have and how they use it. I reposted her text and I also followed the comments on her post. I…
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Tango addicts and dealers
If we, as dancers, are addicts, this makes the event organizers our “drug” dealers… our Tango-drug dealers. Especially the ones in our local community. They organize events where we can get our dose of Tandas. When there is a market opportunity, for example, an area or a time slot where there is no event some…
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Men, sex and Tango
A common misconception as already mentioned is that people who dance Tango, do so because they are trying to find a love partner. Even worse some men might think it’s a nice opportunity to hook up with lots of women and spice up their sex life. I already wrote that these misconceptions often lead to…
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Dialog vs fight
Tango is also a social dance and being social means that it needs to integrate differences. It includes people from different cultures, backgrounds, nationalities, styles, etc., and brings them all together in its embrace. Its history is full of differences and disagreements between styles, orchestras, generations, etc. Being social means that inevitably there will be…
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