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It’s not the notes you dance
It’s not the notes you play… it’s the notes you don’t play. At first glance, it sounds like a riddle. What could he mean? What are the notes you don’t play, and why should they matter?
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Old and new shadows
In this post, I want to discuss… Shadows. Not the ones created by light hitting an object, but the ones we keep inside us. But before we go there, let’s start with a short quiz: What if a person is aggressive? Would you say aggressiveness is a good or a…
Causation, Correlation, and the Dance Between Them
In the first part of this little rabbit hole, we looked at how Tango has (thankfully) moved on from the days when your gender automatically decided your role. Back then, it was simple: man = leader, woman = follower. No questions asked. Today, that rulebook is gone, and we get…
Causation, correlation and the thing between your legs.
Whenever I post something that even remotely touches on gender and roles, there will always be at least one comment about how we should get rid of gender stereotypes in Tango and how it would be better if dance roles were not linked to gender at all. One of the…
When bias is an advantage
When I wrote about how Tango could be advertised more effectively to men, some people commented that I was being “unbalanced” and that the real solution was for me to learn to follow and to propose teaching both roles from the start.
The hidden opportunity in Tango marketing – part 3
In my last post, I argued that Tango can give men a space to come together, side by side, and slowly build friendships, without pressure or pretence. Today, I want to go a little deeper. I want to explore how Tango can be presented in a way that speaks to…
The hidden opportunity in Tango marketing – part 2
In the last post, I wrote about how Tango is a powerful antidote to modern loneliness. Especially in a post-COVID world where third spaces are vanishing, Tango offers us a lifeline… a regular, welcoming community you can return to again and again. But there’s another layer to this story. One…
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It is a woman’s world.
In a comment I received on my post about men in Tango, there was the suggestion that we don’t have enough good leaders and that followers turning to leaders will increase competition between leaders pushing them to get better. In theory, this argument sounds perfect. Indeed. In a market with a small amount of suppliers…
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A ridiculously biased, toxic man. Me!
What I consider normal is not necessarily normal for you and vice versa. Normal is just a construct of our minds. Actually there is not just one “normal”, there are many “normals”. Yours, mine, the guy who just found the post by accident, the lady’s who is looking for a cheesecake recipe and found this…
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Power games and a debunked theory
It all started with an excellent post by Oa Metzner in her Facebook profile. She described her experience so far in the role of leader and urged men to be careful with the power they have and how they use it. I reposted her text and I also followed the comments on her post. I…
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Tango addicts and dealers
If we, as dancers, are addicts, this makes the event organizers our “drug” dealers… our Tango-drug dealers. Especially the ones in our local community. They organize events where we can get our dose of Tandas. When there is a market opportunity, for example, an area or a time slot where there is no event some…
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Men, sex and Tango
A common misconception as already mentioned is that people who dance Tango, do so because they are trying to find a love partner. Even worse some men might think it’s a nice opportunity to hook up with lots of women and spice up their sex life. I already wrote that these misconceptions often lead to…
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Dialog vs fight
Tango is also a social dance and being social means that it needs to integrate differences. It includes people from different cultures, backgrounds, nationalities, styles, etc., and brings them all together in its embrace. Its history is full of differences and disagreements between styles, orchestras, generations, etc. Being social means that inevitably there will be…
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