Tag: observations
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Your pleasure is not the goal
If the goal of my dance is my enjoyment, what does this make the other person? Are they reduced to a variable in my pleasure… a means to my end?
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The false promise of self-improvement
Become the best version of yourself. Invest in yourself. You are your greatest asset. You don’t need anyone else to be whole. You have probably seen or heard these, or similar, motivational messages encouraging self-improvement. From physical to psychological and social aspects of life, there is no shortage of content pushing us to upgrade ourselves.
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It’s not the steps you teach
A few weeks ago, Dimitris wrote a post about tango teachers complaining that “the level of Tango is declining.” His point was simple: maybe teachers judge the level based on the events they attend. Events that are often poorly curated and therefore not representative of the wider tango community.
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It’s not the dancers you see
“We have a policy in our events,” he told me. “No stars. It creates the wrong dynamic.” I smiled happily, not because it was funny, but because I had written about exactly this years ago. And here it was: an organiser proudly standing by it.
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The broken pebble jar
Tango is all about trust. We all know it. We open our embraces and let strangers in, expecting that they will not harm us physically or emotionally. This requires a great deal of trust. And the more we dance, the more we learn to trust… or distrust some partners.
