Tag: observations


  • The whispering room

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    The whispering room

    Before you start… just a quick note. This is the third post in a longer seriesThe arguments unfold over time and are interconnected.Subscribing by email lets you follow it as intended. Subscirbe here A dream come true Have you ever thought you could have a tango event with perfect role balance and a ratio between…

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  • Learned Helplessness

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    Learned Helplessness

    Veronica Tumanova wrote about this recently in her first essay since the pandemic, and as usual, she is spot on. She makes the case that more women leading is good for everyone: for the followers who gain agency, for the economy of tango schools and festivals, and crucially, for the male leaders who will now…

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  • The gift of the wrong partner
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    The gift of the wrong partner

    In a world that counts everything through performance… likes… followers… output… Tango pushes us to develop something else. Something that doesn’t really fit into metrics. Presence. So if presence doesn’t “pay”… why develop it at all? What is the value of it?

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  • Your pleasure is not the goal
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    Your pleasure is not the goal

    If the goal of my dance is my enjoyment, what does this make the other person? Are they reduced to a variable in my pleasure… a means to my end?

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  • The false promise of self-improvement
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    The false promise of self-improvement

    Become the best version of yourself. Invest in yourself. You are your greatest asset. You don’t need anyone else to be whole. You have probably seen or heard these, or similar, motivational messages encouraging self-improvement. From physical to psychological and social aspects of life, there is no shortage of content pushing us to upgrade ourselves.

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